Saturday, October 31, 2009

How to help my Bulimic friend?

What can I do to help her? I can't stop her, and I CAN'T TELL an adult... Its not that bad...Yet..
Answer:
Its not a matter of how bad it is, but the fact that she is harming herself in this way, and believe me it will get worse.
I am a former bulemic, and once you get in the habit, its hard to break. Even now if I eat a particually large meal, I still think, hmmm, if I could get to the bathroom without my partner noticing...

So you need to chat with her quite seriously... someone needs to help her, and it needs to be professional help. I know thats hard for you, but there is nothing you can say that will change her way of thinking, its all in her head.

And bulemia is not necessarily about weight or weight loss, its mostly about control, and control your body, and what you put into (or take out of) your body. It can be quite empowering to do this to your body.

The fact she has told you is a cry for help. Please dont not do anything, you must help her, or she could suffer the consequences for the rest of her life.

Good luck! ;-)
Try intimidating an adult. Maybe he'll tell you.
you need to become more informed about this terrible eating disorder.your friend is lucky to have a friend who cares . this disorder can damage tissue in the throat from gastric juices. it also puts a strain on the heart. check websites for eating disorders and please do it now. you are right, you cant tell her what to do but you can steer her in the right direction. suggest she see a doctor if she has lost self control. good luck.
yes you cannot tell an adult directly because she will no longer trust but you need to know that this is very serious matter and you can't not do something to help. try talking to her... urge her to talk to her parents herself, ask her to see the school psychologist if anything. tell her that she doesnt need to loose weight and especially not that way. and that bulimia is very damaging to the body and it can even cause DEATH.

How to help a?

hangover?
Answer:
Unfortunately, there isn't really much you can do about a hangover from my experience! When you get drunk you become dehydrate, so make sure to drink lots of water...but don't drink it fast and make sure it's not too cold or that might make you sick. The best thing you can do is sleep though! Good luck!
give them gatorade its helps them alot and keep them close to the bathroom what ever you do dont give them milk well not unless you want it all over your floor and for food some soup would help lol yeah i got experience thats what works for me
hawaiian Punch or McDonalds Orange Drink...and greasy cheeseburgers...
All you can really do is suffer through it. And next time you go out partying remember how bad you felt with the hangover and don't do drink. You can have just as much fun without the booze and keeping your head together then being in the "out of it" state of mind. You will also be less likely of getting raped, if you have your head on straight.
Spoken like a mom of three young adults. Good luck.
make a tomato beer.

fill 1/2 of an 8 oz glass with v8 and the rest with beer. It will help your stomach and your head.
my cure is a Pepsi and a hamburger this is what i always have if i overindulge. It is something that i know will stay down and that is what you need when you are hungover to feel better. I don't think it matters what you drink and eat as long as you get fluid in you and some sort of food.

How to have health walk ?


Answer:
Gal.5:25 if we live by the Sprit, let us also walk by the Spirit
Eph. 3:11 according to the eternal purpose which He made in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Walking by the Spirit will produce transformation, a metabolic change in our being. Such a change is not the product of outward correction or adjustment. If you deliberately try to behave as child of God, you will act in a religious way. You may think to yourself, “I must maintain my status as a child of God. This means that I should not argue with my spouse.” This is religious. Our need is to live by the Spirit and then walk by the Spirit. This is not a matter of outward adjustment, but of inward, metabolic transformation. Furthermore, this has nothing to do with religion, for it is altogether a matter of an organic change in our being. When we live by the Spirit and walk by the Spirit, God is spontaneously lived out of us and is expressed through us. Then, in reality and practicality, we are sons of God living by God’s life and walking by this life.

Moment by moment, we need to breathe the divine life into us. Then, instead of acting in ourselves and walking by the flesh, we shall do everything by the Spirit whom we receive by breathing. Our need today is to practice receiving the Spirit and walking by the Spirit. This is not religion or ethics. This is the experience of the living Spirit
First be sure that you are healthy enough for the type of walking that you plan to do. Make sure you dress appropriately for the weather, and have roomy walking shoes that support your feet well. Take along a water bottle if it's very hot, or you plan an extended walk. In hot weather --if sweating isn't enough to keep you cool-- you might want to take along a squirt bottle (set on spray %26 full of water). Other people often ask me to squirt them on such days(;! More suggestions are in the article listed as Source:

How to grow taller?

Hey guys i just wanna kno how to grow taller, im 5"5" and 15 i kno drink a lotta milk and food stuff but is there anything like pull-ups? alsoi have white marks on my nails is that because a lack of calcium or calcium build up? plleease help (my dads 6"2 and moms 5"2)
Answer:
You can grow taller by streching your arms and legs a lot, plus, that builds flexability.
you can grow by doing pull ups.. it would help for you to eat healthy.. btu it wont give you the best results... ther esults migth just be .1-1 inch...

nobody can change your hieght..
Maybe you just got more of your moms jeans- but guys dont usually hit their growth spurt untill their a little older then you.
the white dots on your nails are totally normal too- lots of people have them.
Hey there, There is probably nothing much you can do to make yourself grow taller. It is a genetic thing, but my advise is to not get to uptight about it. You are in a period of really strange growth patterns, and you will probably have another growth spurt. In the mean time, I bet you don't take a multi vitamin, and don't get all the nutrientsyou really need...hence the rings on your nails. What I'd do is eat as healthy as you can and still feel like a teen, take a multi vitamin, and drink plenty of water. Along with exercise, you are givingyour growing body the best chance of growing healthy, and that'sthe important part! :)
True, lack of calcium is critical for the bones, you definitely have some signs of lack of calcium, take Calcium + Vitamin D supplements.Vitamin D helps the bones to absorb the calcium..make sure to take 2 pills before you go to sleep...also play Basketball
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How to go about confronting her?

Hi..I've moved out of home as I'm at uni, but today my mom called me about my 15-year-old sister. She's pretty sure she has an eating disorder of some kind, due to various clues...the first is, she's found bags stuff with food under my sister's bed. This is food she's been given to eat while at school, and partially food my mom made for dinner which my sister hid and brought back up to her room instead of eating it. My mom got a bit scared and read a bit of my sister's diary while she was away for a few days...not really something I support but she's very worried. Anyway in the diary was a page with the words "I will not eat" written out a couple hundred times.
Listening to this I'm pretty sure she has an eating disorder too, especially as I saw her the other day and she did seem a bit paranoid about her weight (she's neither fat not unhealthily skinny, she's actually just right, but she seemed a little weird about staying for dinner). My mom isn't sure what to do. Any suggestions?
Answer:
I've been in your shoes, twice.

First, you or your mom should confront her and say that you found the bags of food (nothing about the diary reading or she might get really upset and uncooperative). Tell her you're worried for her, and try to get her to say what caused this. Try to find out how long she's been doing this, and if she makes herself throw up too. Two of my close friends have been through this, and I hope your sister's case is not that serious. Let's hope it's just some teenage identity crisis and not a medical problem already.

Either way, definitely have her see a nutritionist. The doctor should be able to run some simple tests to prove her she's not overweight (since you say she's not), and especially see if the levels of minerals in her system (iron, calcium, etc) aren't too low. They often drop with eating disorders. He should give her healthy tips on how to obtain a more graceful body (yes, exercise. A very good common tip but people tend to take it more seriously when they hear it from a doctor's mouth).

Don't scare or pressure her to change right away. Just let her know you're on her side. She just has to realize this is a real health-threatening problem, with effects ranging from hair falling off and unhealthy teeth to shrinking of the uterus and losing your periods, and even death in the most serious cases.

One of my friends is now completely over this, and the other -almost. The longer you stick with a bad practice, the harder it is to give it up, but in both cases what made them stop was a change in their way of thinking. You just have to try and trigger that in your sister from the outside.

Another thing I've learned from talking to my friends: people with eating disorders want to be impossibly thin, but not for the sake of thinness itself. It's something that gives them an illusion of control on their life, a way of proving one's worth or punishing oneself, or simply coping with extreme stress. It's quite messed up, and as I said, the change must come from within.

I'm sorry I'm not an expert so I can help more. Good luck.
As her sister maybe you should try talking to her, go on a girly day out for shopping and lunch and have a good chat about everything and see if anything comes up about it.
ask her about it but don't lay down the law! tell her that its ok and your here to help!

good luck!
therapy
dont confront or she might not feel like talking to someone that close to her.
i used to have a disorder... (not eating one) but i never wanted to tell anyone in my family. i had to talk to another person.
good luck.
The only thing I know that works is an intervention with a professional.
Have your parents see if it is covered in their health insurance.
have her mom sign her up for a gym memborship maybe GOLDS if youve heard of it then wether she's fat skinny or just right she can have a nice tone cut to her to and maybe she'd stop this weird disorder. If she is honestly not fat at allllll then maybe it's a diff problem and she should see a psychiatrist
ring a help line. hope she'll be ok.
just tell her that the food has been found under her bed and tell her you know whats going on. show her some images on anorexia and that will soon put her off. tell her what not eating can do to you ie- make you infertile and not to mention all the other dangeous
I think you can be safe in assuming she has a problem. Unless it is an elaborate practical (and unfunny) joke.

Straight talking, but understanding confrontation is the best tactic. Read up on the symptoms so you know your stuff. You might want to visit her GP for advice first.

Tough situation, good luck.
Maybe your sister would be more comfortable if you confronted her rather than her mom. I am the same age as your sister and I would much rather talk about something with my older sister than my mom. Your closer to her age than your mom and you would understand better. But if your mom really wants to confront her than tell her to just ask her if anything is wrong and if she is ok. She will either tell her if she wants to or she won't be ready. Then have your mom watch for another day see if she does it again. And then if she does then your mom should have someone else ask her about and see if she will confess it to them.
You are all in way over your heads. Get professional help.
Well you need to tell your mom to make her eat with everybody and so you will know.Also you need to show her some pictures of people that have or had eating disorders and let people talk to her that had eating disorders or take her to a therapist.
She's probably having someone eat her food. Check under the bed at night.
Get help for your sister immediately. Eating disorders can be life threatening if left untreated. However, many individuals can fully recover if given the right help.
There are many levels to eating disorders, and an individual does not necessarily have to be super skinny to have a disorder. Eating disorders are psychological disorders and not necessarily related to food directly. It is best to consult a psychologist, who is professionally trained to help people like your sister. It is almost a garuantee that your sister will initially deny that there is any problem because her mind is literally killing her own body. She needs all the love and support you can give her during this difficult time. She is fighting a battle with her mind and needs your unconditional love.
There are thousands of websites that discuss symptoms and treatment options for all types of eating disorders. The best thing to do is act quickly.
Your mom is the adult here not the child. She needs to take her to the doctor or the hospital for to get treatment. There is no "mom is not sure what to do" in this case as it is cut and dried. Mom is the adult and she needs to make a doc appointment and take your sister to get help. She needs to alert the doc when she makes the appointment and she should just tell your sis she has made an appointment with the doc for check up and take her. Why your mother didn't take care of this as soon as she read the diary and found the food etc I have no clue but please call your mom as soon as you read this and tell her to call immediately for an appointment or to take her to a larger hospital immediately to get help. If you mom is at work yes she may need to leave to take her to a hospital but we are talking about saving your sisters life. Apparently you and your mom don't realize this could kill your sister is she doesn't get help soon enough. My apologies for sounding "crude" but this is not something that should have been left go for any length of time once you found the evidence.
I feel for you, I've been in your position, and it's a tricky one. My advice to you, is to TALK to her NOW.
Don't put it off, things will get worse. Don't get into an arguement with her, because it'll cause more stress for her, and she'll do it even more.
You have to find out WHY she is doing it first, what or who made her think she was 'FAT'...
Once you've got an answer to that, the rest will be easier.
Belive me, this is better coming from her sister, so, although I know its hard to start this kind of conversation, DO IT. You'll be ok...things can only get better!
Either you could have a word or take her to a GP. Make sure you comment on how great she looks so hopefully she wont go the whole way.

How to give a sensual body massage to my bf?

Plze give me a step by step easily explained answer. Never given him a body massage before.
Answer:
I'll give you a few easy thing to do. 1 you need an oil. If you can find it grape seed oil with a few drops of lavender essential oil added. If not extra light olive oil will do. 2 a space to do it. Pull your bed's mattress onto the floor. This will do. 3. set the mood. Quiet and dark. A few candles and low light. Have a towel and sheet handy in case he gets cold. OK now to the massage. Have him lay on his stomach and you straddle him and sit on his buttocks. Then oil your hands and begin on his back with long flowing strokes from the lower back to the shoulders. Spread your hands out to the sides of the body
and bring them back down to the lower back. Repeat for awhile then go to his head and do the same only in reverse and have your hands go over his buttocks. Repeat for a while.
Then oil your breasts and run them over his back and buttocks making sure to tease his crack too. Then oil your hands and start on the buttocks. Knead the cheeks like they are dough. Then using your fists rotate them all over both cheeks. Then using you thumbs in a circular motion go down both sides of his crack. Go down the legs with long flowing strokes making sure to get behind the knee. Sit at his feet take one in your hand. Use very little oil here. Using your thumbs go over the entire bottom of the foot. Making sure to stroke the arch. Then pull each toe and flex the toes back and forth. Flip him over and do full flowing strokes over his entire front and make sure to leave the special parts till the end. I hope this helps. To add a little spice straddle his face and work his chest and abs with the flowing strokes while you lower your crotch down and up teasing him.
Take off your shirt and rub your Boobies on his back
You really need to go to a bookstore and get a book on this. They have books that will show you step-by-step (I have a couple myself).

Waldenbooks usually has them in their discount bins.

How to get skinnier? get chosen for best answer!?

I work out but i don't really get skinnier
i just lose weight from the top of my
stomach but not from my lower part of my
stomach does anyone know how to lose
weight in that part of the area? if so witch exercises
do i need to do? and what type of diets? please help
if you do this i will promise you that you will
get chosen as the best answer
Answer:
The lower ab area is a really hard place to tone. One of the best exercises is to lay on flat on your back and lift up both legs straight off the floor so your feet around about 1 foot to 1.5 feet off the floor. Hold this move for 15-20 seconds and repeat 3 times.
Another move to tighten abs is the plank. Position yourself like you would as you were doing a push-up and you are pushed up off the floor so your arms are straight. Hold yourself in this position for 60 seconds and repeat 3 times. It may sound simple but it works. You can also try it on your side to help with your obliques.
Try the moves everyday, if your diet is right and you are doing a fair amount of cardio you will probably see definition and results in about 2 weeks.
Good Luck, I hope this helps.
Just exercise and diet the right way. The main thing is not overdoing it. Wait, I hope ur not getting skinny like Nicole Richie. If you are, please stop. Seek professional help if necessary.
well do sit ups that really works on your abs and if you are already doing them run everyday and dont eat unless your hungry, slim fasts work they get you full
Run 4 times a week in the morning, and start off at an 8 minute per mile pace, and run for 3 to 4 miles. As you get better over time increase the miles or lower the minutes, or both. As for diets, it not that hard to use common sense while eating if your just trying to eat healthy. Just remember, getting in shape takes time, so you'll have to be patient. Don't expect overnight results, you'll only end up dissapointing yourself. As for your lower abs, running should help a little but you want to try supine bycycles for that. Google it.
The worst thing for your abs (lower) is consuming alot of carbs no matter how much you exercise. And did you know alot of exercises that you do for your abs actually build up your lower ab muscles so it makes you look bigger. My advice to you is do general exercises like swimming or walking.
I would suggest drinking nothing but water, soymilk, and fresh fruit (no sodas or surgary drinks). Try replacing any snacks you have with fresh fruit and dessert with fruit as well. A fruit salad in the morning and after dinner is a really good treat. Try to make sure you eat healthy; its hard to lose weight without a healthy diet.
An ab workout I used that works really well is to lay on your stomach and with your hands, elbows, and toes hold yourself up for a few minutes. You can feel the burn almost instantly. You can also do it for the sides of your abs too.
You may also want to try an aerobic exercise (like running) which will burn much more calories and fat than just doing sit ups.
 


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